The Johari window is an interesting technique that will allow you to look at yourself and your environment from a different perspective. Interesting?
"I go inside myself, I discover the whole world" - Johann Wolfgang Goethe
How often do we try to understand ourselves, our needs, and find ways out of the stagnation that sometimes happens in our lives? But only by developing and knowing ourselves we can find our true calling, happiness and achieve the success that we are all waiting for.
Theoretical side of technology Window Johari
Johari window - A unique technique of self-knowledge, created in 1955 by American psychologists Lift and Inham. The technique was originally aimed at enabling us to realize and take control of one of the most important interconnections in our lives - the interconnection between our personal qualities and the perception of those around us. Today it is a kind of card for personal development, which has helped many achieve harmony and happiness.
The name of the technique was invented by adding up the names of the two psychologists who created it - Joseph Lift and Harrington Inham - Johari. Nowadays, there is no psychologist who, among other questionnaires and questionnaires, would not have a mysterious tablet on the Johari window on the table. It is called both a model of self-knowledge, and a card of personal growth, and even the path to happiness and the eternal human goal. But no matter how you name it - thanks to it you can look deep inside yourself, explore the qualities that make you vulnerable and strengths, and also realize what you need to do next.Separation
- To begin with, if you are not aware (and even if you think that you are), ask your closest friends, colleagues, fitness trainer and family to write a brief description of what others think of you. Do not be afraid and do not be shy, believe me, most people think about you much better than yourself. The result will surely surprise you.
- Besides, we gathered here to become better, right? You can start the letter or the speech with which you will contact relatives “Mom (dear husband, dear friend), I really want to change, become better and happier. For this I need to understand what people around me think about me me. Please answer very honestly. "
- Of course, it would be better if this is a letter - shy you can forget everything that you were told or just do not start a conversation. And the screen of a computer or smartphone often makes us bolder.
- If you do not want to know the opinion of others around you - this is a sign of immaturity of the person or even the disease. Let someone envy and write you disgusting. Someone blurt out some kind of stupidity. But at least two out of twenty respondents will definitely write you something that will later be useful to you or even change your life. Fear of encountering a misunderstanding and criticism of others, a fear of meeting a real self, leads to the fact that we become ugly and unhappy. It's time to get out of your shell and get to know yourself better!
- The survey will help you create a more objective picture of your personality and thus the works that you direct to your self-development will not be wasted.
- Another way to find out what others think of you is to eavesdrop on their conversations about you. But, firstly, eavesdropping is ugly, and secondly, this method will take you much longer, and you don’t want to wait on the road to your happiness?
Johari Window: Applying Knowledge
You need to take the paper into the box and draw a pretty big square on it. Divide this square with a cross into small sectors in the form of four identical squares. Are you done? Now let's sign these boxes.
- Call the upper square on the left -"Open area". In this window you should write down your personal qualities that you know and that others know and accept. Scientists who created the technique believed that this zone and its size (the number of matching qualities known to you and those close to you) are directly related to your happiness, success and prosperity. After all, success and other benefits are possible only with full understanding with the outside world. Therefore, the larger this zone, the better they understand you, and the more effective your interaction with the environment will be. And it will bring more fruits both in work, and at home and in other areas of your life.
- How to fill the open area of the Johari window? In an open area, write down all those qualities that you know about yourself and that the people around you recognize and love (or don't like) in you. Do not write yourself praises, only what others agree with, judging by a preliminary survey. When filling out this box, be extremely honest.
- The box to the right of the open area is called "Blind area". It often happens that when we discuss or condemn others, we don’t see the logs in our own eyes. Few are so mentally mature that they are clearly aware of all their qualities - both good and bad. This bad habit has come to us as a gift from our ignorance and frivolity.
- Most often this is expressed in low or high self-esteem. People who see and know you see a large number of positive qualities, but you yourself are not able to see them and it seems to you that you are a very bad person. This leads to the fact that we are embittered towards others and the whole world, we are not able to build relationships, communicate a little and take the position “it is better to attack first” that seems convenient to us.
- How to fill the blind area of Johari window? In this box, boldly write down all the qualities that surprised you in the characteristics given to you by those around you. Good or bad - think of them as steps on the way up.
Answer these questions:
- Are you tolerant of criticism? How much?
- What do you do when you notice an unusual reaction to your behavior?
- Do you often ask other people to evaluate your actions?
- What signs tell you how others react to your actions?
The lower left box is called Hidden Zone. A bad habit of hiding one’s true self and adjusting itself to society with thoughts like “what others will think of me” has been imposed on us since childhood. Already in the kindergarten we begin to understand what is “beautiful” and what is “ugly” and hide our ugly features in order to seem more pleasant to others. Of course, the reasons that we all hide and carry in the soul can be different - reluctance to open up completely in front of people, the desire to appear better than we are, the fear that any of what is said or done can subsequently be used against us.
The more information in our hidden area, the more unhappy we seem and the more health problems we have. One of the most striking indicators of psychological maturity is the empty window of this zone. But the emphasis must be placed on the fact that this is an indicator of maturity, and not the ideality of the individual. Ideal people do not exist.
It's just that those who have this window left empty have long understood a certain truth that allows them to be honest with themselves and others and sleep in peace. For example, if such a person gets a job in a company whose management is deeply disgusting to him, and realizes that he will have to hide his attitude every day. He will not get a job, but look for another. If only because, deeply hiding his hostility, he will not be able to build effective relationships in the team, and, accordingly, will not be able to add any value to the success of the company, as well as to his personal growth.
Many believe that, hiding their shortcomings, they gain some advantage and expose themselves only in a favorable light. However, the constant need to hide makes a person irritable, angry and withdrawn, plus there is a fear that the secret will be revealed (and we all know that everything hidden once becomes clear), and as a result, such a person has mental and physical health problems.Perception
- How to fill in the hidden area of Johari window? Everything is simple - honestly write down in this window everything that you have accumulated and hidden for years, and what others do not know about, judging by the survey that you previously did.
- And finally, the small box in the lower right corner is called "Unknown Zone". What is it that you yourself don’t know about yourself and what people from your environment, even the closest, don’t know?
- Some psychologists believe that the unknown zone is those character traits and personality in general that you acquire in extreme conditions. Others believe that this is a kind of well, deep at the bottom of which your potential, still unsolved, is hidden. When your friends or other people ask you questions like: “Could you kill?”, “Could you part with your life to save another person?”, “Are you able to die for your idea?”, “Do you think could you give your child to strangers? "," Would you let someone else you love? "," Would you be able to lie in court? " - in this way they are trying to get into your unknown zone and understand you even better.
- Unfortunately, none of us will be able to answer this question until we begin to live truly, accepting both the gifts of life and the problems that it brings. It is to eliminate such a zone, consciously or unconsciously, people are keen on extreme sports.
How to fill an unknown zone window oKna Johari?
Joseph Lift and Harrington Inham offered a very simple way - when interviewing friends, ask them also about qualities that you definitely don’t have. Thus, comparing them with the qualities that you think you have, and selecting those that do not match your list, you can actually fill out this window as well.Interrogate loved ones
You can also make a list of qualities that you yourself want to acquire, and which others do not yet see in you.
Johari window: what to do with the results - work on yourself
Having read to this place you already managed to understand that the Johari window is not just a toy and it will be difficult to “cut through” it into your consciousness. Is it necessary? All psychologists and people who have achieved great success in life and self-knowledge claim that the game is worth the candle. After all Johari window not just four squares on a piece of paper in a box filled with scribbles. These are clearly formulated recommendations for those who seek to live better and feel better and those who are trying to understand the meaning of their own existence and their path to happiness.
What to do?If you formulate the meaning of further work with Johari window - you need to try to reduce such areas as unknown, hidden and blind and increase open.
An open zone is a reflection of your Self. This is a zone in which you can be yourself, enjoying life and not hiding anything. That is why, in order to become happier, you need to work to eliminate the remaining zones.
How to reduce or eliminate the blind spot?
You need to communicate more with other people. Ask others questions about yourself more often and, receiving feedback, work on eliminating qualities that you don’t like or somehow interfere with, correct your behavior. Do not be afraid of communication, because it is not for nothing that life pushes us out of the cave every second, in which we subconsciously strive to get more comfortable.Leave comfort zone for analysis.
It is in communication and interaction with other people that we become better and simply happier and achieve success.
How to reduce the hidden area?
Try not to live in a lie, no matter how difficult it is. To do this, do not go to conflict. Avoid situations that are unpleasant to you or cause fear in you, or overcome them. For example, if you think that you are a terrible speaker and are afraid to speak in public, you can refuse to speak for the rest of your life, or you can go to acting and oratory courses that will give you confidence, many new friends and, of course, the ability to captivate the public .
Or another situation - if suddenly in the process of work it turns out that you do not have enough skills to carry out a particular task, take courage and ask for help and help from colleagues. Do not hide and wait until the deadlines begin to put pressure on you.
What to do with an unknown zone?
This zone can only be reduced by constantly developing, acquiring new skills and leaving the zone of one’s own comfort. Learn a new language, take a course in theater art, learn to skate or snowboard, start your own blog.